I recommend Johann Hari’s book, Lost Connections. I’m his biggest fan. I found it to be an incredible book! It cemented many lessons from my journey and changed my view of depression and what we as a society do to try and fix it. He opened my mind to what we are doing and how we could improve our system. Hari writes from such a raw, open space and covers what he believes to be the common causes of both good and bad mental health. I really related to him and the examples he uses. He also has talks online which I find just as good.
My ultimate goal in life is to spread love. Any other goals I take on ultimately have this as their underlying theme. Spreading love is the fundamental thing I want to do through all my actions. I’ve found that if I focus on spreading love, it naturally makes me a positive person. It's not your typical A-type goal of striving to achieve this or that. It’s more of a goal that I can hit every day, and the beauty is there’s no end to it.
I check in with myself every night, to make sure that I’m still working towards this ultimate goal of spreading love. A good example of a current goal of mine is to complete my cycle journey around the whole of New Zealand for Mental Health Awareness, in 100 days. At present, I’m about halfway through the challenge. Although completing the trip within the 100-day target would feel so incredibly good, it’s not the ultimate goal. Spreading love is. So if something happens now which stops me, then so be it. I feel I have already done a huge amount towards achieving my ultimate goal in the 50 days I’ve been cycling so far. It’s this bigger goal that can be achieved every day that brings me the most joy. Love.
P.S. By the time of printing, Tommy had successfully completed the 100-day cycle challenge - arriving to his family home in Blenheim on Christmas Eve, 2019. Details of the journey are available on his blog: www.tommysmoment.com
If it was possible to send a note back to yourself when you needed the most help, what would you write?