Exercises like this that help to clarify my thinking are more important to me now than ever, given the responsibilities I now have with full-time work, fatherhood and being a good husband. I realise the world is not black and white, and it’s okay for me to let go of the reins from time to time.
I also have a strong academic trait, which is a great quality, but throughout my life I’ve always put pressure on myself to get results. This used to be stressful, but I’ve come to realise that I am in control of my mindset 100%, and that includes my relationship to pressure. For me, the thing that matters is not necessarily how much pressure I feel but rather, my relationship with it. I’ve learnt to consciously choose to see pressure as encouraging and developmental and, therefore, to be happy to have it.
I appreciate that these traits make me who I am and I embrace what comes with them, but it’s also been really good identifying why and how I react as a result of these characteristics. In doing so, I can take control over them but yet still enjoy all of the positive benefits that my traits bring for me.