Something that makes me feel connected and gives an awesome sense of community is giving my time to help others. I volunteer as a lifeguard in the weekends during the summer. It’s a great social environment, giving me feelings of belonging and worth. I became Patrol Captain of the beach which is awesome, and get to perform rescues which are amazing! I feel as though we not only save people’s lives, but also change people.
I like to give on a smaller, day-to-day basis too. I like to try to make someone’s day by perhaps donating my clothes, giving to buskers (and total strangers), or doing something else for someone. Giving makes me appreciate what I have. It shifts something inside of me. Seeing a smile on someone’s face is the ultimate gift which I get in exchange.
If I’m really pissed off at someone there’s a cool technique that I do to let that tension go. It’s simple but; when I see a stranger, without talking, I wish them all the best. It’s like going telepathic. I mentally send them energy and good vibes to have a great day. This especially works if I’m in a bitter state. It changes my attitude completely. It’s a simple way of giving without really giving.
In terms of wellness tools that have changed me, the biggest single thing I’ve experienced is the Hoffman Process. My life changed once I went on the 7-day Hoffman training camp in Byron Bay, Australia. It’s a camp cut-off from society, where I stayed with 20 other people and three facilitators (phycologists). We worked intensely on ourselves. I went into it with a totally open mind, giving everything I had and not holding back. I dove so deep into myself which brought out so many raw emotions.
It was hard. I cracked, and there were times I wanted to leave, but the whole process was a game-changer for me. I transformed. I opened. It changed my life for the better. I gained a true sense of peace. More than any other program, book, video, or conversation, it taught me tools to help me understand myself, how I think, act and behave. I practiced the tools lots and now use them to keep myself well. They’re amazing. I know everybody’s world is different and what works for me might not work for the next person, but I can’t speak highly-enough of what The Hoffman Process did for me. To people who are curious about it, I highly recommend it.
Travelling forward from depression into wellness, I used to think meant I’d never experience the bad stuff again, or ever be sad again. But the way I now view it, it’s not quite like that. I don’t think life is like that. I think life brings balance; Yin and Yang. There is no light without darkness.
I find it interesting how it’s seen as okay to be happy but not okay to be sad. I think there is an unrealistic picture of happiness which makes people search for it, forgetting that feeling sad is actually okay too. I’ve learnt to accept all of my feelings that come up, rather than view them as an issue. Knowing this, I’m a lot more okay with both the ups and downs. As far as I think, it’s okay to not be okay.
If it was possible to send a note back to yourself when you needed the most help, what would it look like?